Is love a feeling or sentiment or hormones or brain chemistry or heart muscles or matrix or God or action or verb or what?? Is it one way or has to be two way?? What drives it?? Why we love certain things or people at certain time and then we love something else or somebody else at some other time. Why it keeps on changing.. or in some cases stays constant.. But then Change is only Constant of the world so it can't be constant.. It has to change. Why it becomes understanding or compromise.. why can't our pure and solid love for things and people remain constant what ever the time or circumstances may be?
Which factors influence our love to certain other objects and living things or even certain groups like nations or religion or language or so many N number of things.. Why we are ready to die for love, say of other human or religion or nation and now many a times ready to take life of others in the name of love of... What exactly generates love and what annihilates it.. Is it matter Vs dark matter balance issue? Is it some kind of cosmic combination which effects it..
Enough of questions.. I am sure everyone has lot of theories and understanding about it..
For now, some of my theories.. I think origin of love should be attributed to basic motivation or greed or fear of human brain cells.. Before you dump my theory, remember I am not talking about only about certain aspect of love.. I am fairly generic and at very high level at this point.. Still I strongly believe that every lovely relationship starts with either of these factors.. Be it love for child, mother/parent, opposite sex, religion, nation and any other kind of lovely groups or individuals or things or physical or mental objects.. Once human brain (or for that matter any living thing's brain) sees some thing which will either satisfy or protect them from something, they will start loving that individual or group.. Sometimes motivation is so great for certain entity that we ignore bigger picture of humanity that we ought to love everyone or everything. Due to extremely high motivational forces for certain entity we even start hating some other entities. Let us keep this topic to love only for now ;-)
After that it depends on our actions and involvement with the other entity. I think verb form of love takes over after that. Then it is up to us to keep on cultivating love bank or certain point, start diminishing it.. Multiple other factors like genetics, social environment, education or more importantly our ability to think and process information drives it. We start calling it maturity or understanding or many other names.. Ideally, love should be without any motivation but I don't know anyone who has that kind of love.. Even if someone says that they only love this planet or universe, that also is driven by our ultimate survival..
More important is how to continue love for that entity over a period of time without too much of deltas on time curve.. I guess, for this we need to create awareness in ourselves that we love certain entity and we need to keep loving it. If we want love to continue without too much of diminishing returns then we need to work for it. We need to take certain actions such that other entity sees them as love not just by using words.. There is very good chance that if we continue to take actions close enough to selflessly (though as per my earlier principle or theory there is nothing like selflessness) we may find some decent return on those actions throughout the life.. But everyone is good at least by their own definition... then it is quite possible that they may still not see it selfless love as their expectation of actions to prove your selfless love may be different.. In this case, most important thing is honesty.. Once you are honest, you will be brave, and you will communicate and clearly outline your selfish interest (however minor they may be) behind your loving actions and hopefully this will result in other person/entity returning the favor and tell you what kind of actions constitutes as selfless love to them.. Once this happens there could be fairly constant love for those entities..
Cheers!!!!!
Which factors influence our love to certain other objects and living things or even certain groups like nations or religion or language or so many N number of things.. Why we are ready to die for love, say of other human or religion or nation and now many a times ready to take life of others in the name of love of... What exactly generates love and what annihilates it.. Is it matter Vs dark matter balance issue? Is it some kind of cosmic combination which effects it..
Enough of questions.. I am sure everyone has lot of theories and understanding about it..
For now, some of my theories.. I think origin of love should be attributed to basic motivation or greed or fear of human brain cells.. Before you dump my theory, remember I am not talking about only about certain aspect of love.. I am fairly generic and at very high level at this point.. Still I strongly believe that every lovely relationship starts with either of these factors.. Be it love for child, mother/parent, opposite sex, religion, nation and any other kind of lovely groups or individuals or things or physical or mental objects.. Once human brain (or for that matter any living thing's brain) sees some thing which will either satisfy or protect them from something, they will start loving that individual or group.. Sometimes motivation is so great for certain entity that we ignore bigger picture of humanity that we ought to love everyone or everything. Due to extremely high motivational forces for certain entity we even start hating some other entities. Let us keep this topic to love only for now ;-)
After that it depends on our actions and involvement with the other entity. I think verb form of love takes over after that. Then it is up to us to keep on cultivating love bank or certain point, start diminishing it.. Multiple other factors like genetics, social environment, education or more importantly our ability to think and process information drives it. We start calling it maturity or understanding or many other names.. Ideally, love should be without any motivation but I don't know anyone who has that kind of love.. Even if someone says that they only love this planet or universe, that also is driven by our ultimate survival..
More important is how to continue love for that entity over a period of time without too much of deltas on time curve.. I guess, for this we need to create awareness in ourselves that we love certain entity and we need to keep loving it. If we want love to continue without too much of diminishing returns then we need to work for it. We need to take certain actions such that other entity sees them as love not just by using words.. There is very good chance that if we continue to take actions close enough to selflessly (though as per my earlier principle or theory there is nothing like selflessness) we may find some decent return on those actions throughout the life.. But everyone is good at least by their own definition... then it is quite possible that they may still not see it selfless love as their expectation of actions to prove your selfless love may be different.. In this case, most important thing is honesty.. Once you are honest, you will be brave, and you will communicate and clearly outline your selfish interest (however minor they may be) behind your loving actions and hopefully this will result in other person/entity returning the favor and tell you what kind of actions constitutes as selfless love to them.. Once this happens there could be fairly constant love for those entities..
Cheers!!!!!
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